A question as old as time, Why Unfaithful men still want to stay with their wives despite cheating?
A recent study reported that 2.2% of married people had cheated and had had another partner withing a year. Also, 15-25% of married Americans especially men have affairs and cheat. Even though they cheat, American men still don’t want to divorce.
We like to be objective on this issue and come up with 8 reasons why husbands avoid leaving their wives forever.
1. His home is still the best place, in his opinion.
A Man’s house is his castle, It is the best place where he spends beautiful moments with his family. When he starts looking for affairs, it doesn’t necessarily mean he is thinking about having a new life, he may just want to experience new things with other women.
The husband can’t leave his wife. Without her, his house would be a mess. It is challenging for him to manage the house.
We all agree that love and passion can fade away, but there is respect and friendship. Affairs with other women can be his new comfort zone where a man can relax.
2. He is just looking for a “break.”
During an interview, it was mentioned by one the dating site CEO that there are many cases of married people who look for affairs. They have good partners, good relationships, and belong to good families but still cheat. They don’t think about breaking up, but they consider this break as time to relax and refresh their life.
Some partners love each other, and a break for them is just a new adventure to live.
3. He thought he could find the answer about life in an affair, but hasn’t yet.
You may have heard the story of a man who had an affair and cheated on his wife. Consequently, the wife goes through the whole spectrum of feelings and end up wondering WHY?? He cheated and still want to stay with his family.
Here is the answer. There was no reason behind the husband’s cheating. Nothing was wrong with the wife nor the family, he only cheated because men usually think having an affair will change their life and will make them Happier, but this doesn’t happen. There is love but still, husbands can experience some psychological problems.
4. He actually loves his wife.
Recently, on a magazine, a wife shared her story about having an affair with a married man. She found him nice and gentleman and a family guy. The only issue she had with him is that he was not willing to leave his wife.
Whey do they behave this way?
Another husband answered the previous question. He had a happy life with his wife for more than 20 years and had kids. Yes! He was in love with his wife, but had been having an affair with another woman for 15 years. He consider it a “fetish” for him. He also feels sorry about it.
5. He doesn’t have enough courage to change his life completely.
“Mind-boy affair”, a feeling mentioned by Therapist Douglas LaBier. This powerful and consuming feeling develops when a husband finds his soul mate. He could be that perfect husband and father who has spent more than 10 years with his lovely family, but once this man finds his soul mate, it may end up with divorce so that the husband can start a new life with his “soul mate”.
For others, they can’t as they have a strong connection with their wife.
6. He feels that there are strong chains, like children or a mortgage.
Divorce can be a challenge for parents.
A lawyer stated that it is painful and hurtful to divorce because parents can’t give up being with their kids. They may not be happy with their wives, but still can not divorce.
Their responsiblities as parents are like strong chains which stop them from divorce despite the absence of love.
7. He doesn’t want to go through the pain of getting a divorce.
No one likes the word “Divorce”!! Don’t you? This word provokes undesirable feelings and associations. When a man decides to separate, he will have to deal with lawyers, negotiate about time management for children, and split properties.
So, to avoid all this anger, tears, pain and problems, some men prefer not to divorce and leave things as they are.
If the relationship is not healthier as it should be, then it would be easier for him to find a lover.
Despite lack of love, the husband still avoid stressing out the kids and wife.
8. He realized he made a mistake when having an affair.
If a man opened up and confessed that he had had an affair, it is a sign that he regretted it and understood that it was a huge mistake.
This will make him feel guilty and painful.
Should He confess his mistake or no!? The answers may differ from one to another.
His wife may find it out but still, he doesn’t want to seperate because there still love between them.
After reading the eight reasons why unfaithful husbands stay with their wives,
Would you divorce or forgive your man if he had an affair?
Do you think we can love more than one partner? Please, share us your experiences.